You Should be My Friend

Posted on Friday, Feb 17, 2017

“Alone time” is just a nicer way of saying “solitary confinement”. That’s why I can never understand anyone’s desire for “alone time.” Being with other people is always better than being alone. I am a classic extrovert, but I am not an extrovert out by nurture or nature. I am an extrovert out of sheer necessity. So if you’re anything like me and literally need friendship above all else to get through the day, here are a few things you can do to coax other people into being your friend.
  1. When moving to a new city, prioritize people over housing. When I decided to move to Austin for this internship, the scariest part had nothing to do with my job. I was most scared of not having friends. I couldn’t bear the thought of being alone in a city like Austin where people wear burnt orange and weird cows on their shirts. When looking for a place to live, I saw a lot of nice places and met potential roommates. But in the end, I picked the place that had people I could see myself getting along with rather than the apartment with the best amenities and location. This single choice has already made the biggest difference in my time here. When I’ve had a long day at work, I get to come home to nice people who share their food with me and already have “The Office” turned on.
  2. Go to everything. Someone’s going to dinner? I’m there. Someone’s needs a workout buddy? I’ll walk/online shop while you run. Super bowl party? Say no more. There have been many times when I’ve been busy or tired but chose to spend time with my fellow interns. I think too often we turn down offers to go out with others and then don’t understand why we find ourselves without anyone to spend time with later on. If you want to call the people around you friends, the easiest thing to do is to hang out with them when they invite you, even if you’d rather be at home watching Game of Thrones.
  3. If all else fails, beg people to hang out with you. Instead of waiting around for other people to invite you out, call them up and ask them to do something. When I’m craving Mexican food and don’t want to go eat a whole bowl of guac by myself, I invite others. If people don’t want Mexican, then compromise. Go to Chipotle. I learned pretty early on that sometimes you have to be the one to initiate the relationship. When I was younger, I moved quite a bit and often found that I was the new kid at school. The experience of going to schools where I didn’t know anyone taught me that it’s always better to ask someone if you can sit with them at their lunch table that it is to sit alone.
  4. Be persistent. There have been times in my life when I can tell someone doesn’t necessarily like me. But do I move along with my life and not pay any attention to the opinion of one person? Absolutely not. I go out of my way to make this personally fall in love with me. I will like all of their Instagram pictures and comment “omg so cute.” I will add them on Facebook. I will add their mom on Facebook. I will do anything in my power to make this person realize how cool I am. I do not have too much pride. I haven’t had to add any of my office staffs’ moms on Facebook just yet, I am not above it.
There have been times in my life when I can tell someone doesn’t necessarily like me. But do I move along with my life and not pay any attention to the opinion of one person? Absolutely not. I go out of my way to make this personally fall in love with me. I will like all of their Instagram pictures and comment “omg so cute.” I will add them on Facebook. I will add their mom on Facebook. I will do anything in my power to make this person realize how cool I am. I do not have too much pride. I haven’t had to add any of my office staffs’ moms on Facebook just yet, I am not above it.

Taryn Woody
Office of State Senator Jane Nelson
Austin, Texas